What if my child does not want to go for his or her parenting time?  Can my former spouse force the child to go?

If your child is resisting going with the other parent, it can be helpful to determine the underlying reason.  Consider these questions:

• What is your child's stated reason for not wanting to go?
• Does your child appear afraid, anxious, or sad?
• Do you have any concerns regarding your child's safety while with the other parent?
• Have you prepared your child for being with the other parent, speaking about the experience with enthusiasm and encouragement?
• Is it possible your child is perceiving your anxiety about the situation and is consequently having the same reaction?
• Have you provided support for your children's transition to the other home, such as completing fun activities in your home well in advance of the other parent's starting time for parenting?
• Have you spoken to the other parent about your child's behavior?
• Can you provide anything that will make your child's time with the other parent more comfortable, such as a favorite blanket or toy?
• Have you established clear routines that support your child to be ready to go with the other parent with ease, such as packing a backpack or saying good-bye to a family pet?

The reason for a child's reluctance to go with the other parent may be as simple as being sad about leaving you or as serious as being a victim of abuse in the other parent's home.  It is important to look at this closely to determine the best response.

Judges treat compliance with court orders for parenting time seriously.  If one parent believes that the other parent is intentionally interfering with parenting time or the parent-child relationship, it can result in further litigation.  At the same time, you want to know that your child is safe.  Talk with the Law Offices of Lisa P. Kirby about the best approach in your situation.